This illustrates that one should look at virtues of a person rather than the person itself. Do Ardaas, read Gurbaani and do as much Simran – Waheguru Himself shows one the true way.
Keep faith and Waheguru will arrange all your affairs for you, including finding a marriage partner.
“By interviewing people, who use shaadi.com, online and in person, we have discovered that the website combines the western principles of individualism whilst retaining the collective family values seen in Sikhism,” said Dr Takhar, co-author of Computer Culture and The Evolution of Sikh Courtship Rituals.
If all parties agree and consent, then things progress. One can look at the Saakhi of Guru Amar Daas Ji asking his daughter what type of husband she wants to marry. The Saakhi says that the Mata Bhani Ji (Guru Ji’s daughter) told her father, “I would like a husband with the virtues (gunn) Bhai Jethaa has”.
Guru Sahib overlooked socio-economic factors (which many of us nowadays get stuck in) and matched the virtues of both parties and asked Bhai Jethaa whether he accepts marriage to his daughter.
Your fear is dispelled in the Saadh Sangat, the Company of the Holy, O Nanak, through the Protection and Support of the Lord.
ਹੇ ਕਾਮੰ ਨਰਕ ਬਿਸ੍ਰਾਮੰ ਬਹੁ ਜੋਨੀ ਭ੍ਰਮਾਵਣਹ ॥ ਚਿਤ ਹਰਣੰ ਤ੍ਰੈ ਲੋਕ ਗੰਮ੍ਯ੍ਯੰ ਜਪ ਤਪ ਸੀਲ ਬਿਦਾਰਣਹ ॥ ਅਲਪ ਸੁਖ ਅਵਿਤ ਚੰਚਲ ਊਚ ਨੀਚ ਸਮਾਵਣਹ ॥ ਤਵ ਭੈ ਬਿਮੁੰਚਿਤ ਸਾਧ ਸੰਗਮ ਓਟ ਨਾਨਕ ਨਾਰਾਇਣਹ ॥੪੬॥ “O sexual desire, you lead the mortals to hell; you make them wander in reincarnation through countless species.