When a man goes out with a woman, he’s not as concerned with whether she’s articulate and on track to make partner at the law firm. Listen, I’ve spent my life chasing after women I’ve intellectually admired. They’re not wrong for seeing things I could change. But if that go-getter side ends up emasculating your man, or makes him feel insignificant, or second-guessed, he’s not really getting what he wants out of a partner. ” it’s pretty difficult for us to enjoy our role as men.
That’s what women want in men and they assume it’s of equal importance to them. Men DO value intelligence, but they also want from their girlfriend what they CAN’T get from their business associates. If he finds himself constantly hearing all the things he needs to change, he may just determine that he wants a bright woman who is less challenging. But a huge reason I’m with my wife is because she spends her time loving and supporting me, not challenging me on everything from movie tickets, to travel plans, to wake up times. This doesn’t mean you should play dumb, or be weak and needy, no more than the nice guy should start acting like a jackass.
Still, it doesn’t change the fact that “hard-driving, opinionated, and meticulous” are not on most men’s lists of ideal feminine traits. Then on the next page were what you label downfalls, or what the test said was the way people who don’t think exactly like me may see me: pushy, intimidating, overbearing, restless, impatient, manipulative, abrasive, reactive & dominating. It was hard too facing the fact that though I didn’t see myself that way, some others did.
As someone who considers himself smart and direct, take it from me – there’s nothing wrong with these qualities. I think it’s not that these smart, successful women are exactly those things either, but they are perceived that way by some – not all – of the men they come in contact with.
” If you’re an older woman dating a younger man, is it doomed from the start or will you be happily ever after? It’s very possible that an older woman dating a younger man can have a lasting relationship and live happily ever after in Cougarville! ” However, if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, you may want to proceed with caution. Here’s why: An older woman does pose an alluring challenge for a younger man.
If you’re in your forties and feel like you have a young soul and body, it might be easy as pie for you to attract a guy in his mid- or late twenties (or thirties! Not only is she at her most confident, but this woman has got it together.
And since we believe a match made in heaven is based on common values, you may be setting yourself up to be in a mismatch from the get-go.
The problem, however, can be that an older woman is simply a challenge for the younger man.
She supports herself and is very in touch with her needs.
Some younger men feel like they can learn from her and that she has enough life experience for both of them.
It might mean, however, turning off some of the things that make you “successful” at work. I discovered what you’ve written through taking a self evaluation test.
This is a bitter pill to swallow, perhaps even a double standard. I got these lists of great traits for myself: persuasive, risk taker, competitive, pursues change, confident, socially skilled, inspiring, open & direct.
And since it’s likely he’s in a different stage of his life (just beginning to establish his career, getting to know himself, and possibly not yet ready to make a long-term commitment) and you’re beyond that point, it can be a dealbreaker for a potential relationship.