There are some men and women whose superpowers include maintaining beyond-cordial associations with everyone they've ever seriously dated.I asked 10 of these savants to share their Ten Commandments for Staying Friends With an Ex."Dating" is not a relationship, it is a method people employ in our culture to get to know others of the opposite sex that was not employed in Biblical times.The Bible does not talk about "dating," but it does talk about relationships.
If I fought with someone while we were dating, why would I want to be friends with them? "I never try too hard to make everything work out."Keep your nose out of their new relationships.Let something be broke, allow it to heal, and then work on establishing a friendship," explained Alex R., a 24-year-old medical student in Philadelphia. A minimum of half the time you dated."I know it sounds harsh and I guess you could break the rule after like a decade or so, but the key to staying platonic with my exes is limiting our hangouts to group activities," said Adam M., a 33-year-old lawyer in Chicago.Four years after their breakup, Alana, 31, was a bridesmaid in her ex-boyfriend's wedding."Even when I can't stand my exes' new girlfriends, I shut my mouth.I talk to them about just about everything else except whether or not I like their new chicks," said Nisha, a 33-year-old executive from New Jersey.
Some of the rules are rational but difficult for those of us who relish the irrational after a breakup.