So you gather your courage, casually walk on over, and...s-s-s-st-st-a-m-m-e-r.
Your face flushes, your pulse quickens and the thought of actually getting a single word out seems totally impossible. No matter how smart or sexy or confident we are, it’s likely that we’ve all experienced shyness at some point in our lives.
What makes it even worse is that I'm attracted to shy girls - and then it's a double whammy!
”I’m really not trying to pick you up; I just wanted to know if you’ve ever been to such and such, because I know I’ve seen you there before, and I didn’t want you to think I was rude by not acknowledging you.” The Mirror - Even if you’re the most gregarious confident person in the world, tell the shy guy or girl you have your eye on that you’re not.
Make it seem as though the two of you are in the same boat, and they’ll instantly feel more at ease.
The real problem arises when our shyness is so debilitating that we can’t overcome it and it actually stops us from moving forward.
If that’s you - I’ve got two words for you: ”fake it!
Shy people may need to make a bit more effort to contribute their fair share to the conversation. So you have to deal with that as well by making provisions for polite interferences in between her speeches, if any!