As someone who is waiting till marriage, you are hoping to be owned physically by your spouse by giving them your virginity (and thus your only full-body commitment) and taking theirs in return.You no doubt think (and rightly so) that this increased physical ownership between the two of you will multiply the emotional ownership, and contribute to a deeper, more lasting marriage.
Sometimes it creeps up on you: You’ve known about their history from the beginning, but it didn’t really bother you until now.
What a fool you are to have thought you had something special and unique.
It’s not that they’ve been knocked off their pedestal; it’s that they’re still on the pedestal but they’ve let other people have sex with them who didn’t appreciate their value like you do.
And now all of a sudden, it’s like you can’t stop thinking about it and torturing yourself with mental pictures.
This has gone from a minor annoyance to a major and central problem in your relationship.
Sometimes a person’s past can represent permanent differences in character that will make it nearly impossible for you to have a happy long-term relationship with them.