Spending time with them and seeing how they treat you and interact with the world around them will tell you far more than any amount of questions ever could.
Now practically speaking, this means singles are seeking out people to speak into their lives.
What someone relays about their experience can be quite revealing about them as a person.
They may be very open and forthcoming, sharing some funny anecdotes or they may give very short answers which tell you nothing.
This is the first and most obvious thing you have in common and it’s safe to talk about because it isn’t revealing personal information too soon.
You’ve both taken the step to join e Harmony and will have had some experiences, both good and bad, that you can share with each other.
Conversation is a two way thing and while email can be a bit clumsy it’s an indicator of whether a rapport could develop between you.