A recent article in Scientific American drew the conclusion that no, no they couldn’t, based on a pair of studies of 88 couples in mixed-gender platonic relationships.
The conclusions from the study found that – amongst college students – the male partners in the relationships were far more likely to be attracted to the women than vice-versa and that the men would Now, arguments could and have been made about the article’s interpretation of the data (which varies from the stated purpose of the study), the way the study was conducted, the potential problems with the sample pool or the statistical conclusions that can be drawn from a 1 point difference in estimated levels of attraction (on a 9 point scale).
Despite the obsession with the idea that men’s libidos somehow make them unable to be friends with someone they find attractive, I believe that not only can men and women be “just” platonic friends…
it’s the obsession with the question that’s the problem.
Can you turn an ex-girlfriend into a friend with benefits?
Friends with benefits are a must for any single guy.
You can call or text them whenever you like, get them over to your place for sex and kick them out the door without any feelings lost. Because you’re both in an agreement which means you can use each other for sex whenever you both see fit.
It’s a sexy topic, rife with stereotypes and joking-but-not-really stereotypes about men and women and teasing the idea that your supposedly platonic friend is actually harboring a secret crush on you and whether this is a good or bad thing for the relationship.
People who believe that yes, men and women the idea that there’s some sort of impossible wall between men and women and ascribe all sorts of motivations to it – that men only are friends with women because they want to sleep with them or that women that their male friends want them and string them along because they enjoy the ego boost or because they get their jollies over the power they wield.
The ancient Greeks on the other hand, acknowledged many different kinds of love.