Let this be your new mantra: Everything and nothing is a date.
"You'll be missing out on all sorts of opportunities to connect with guys if you're simply waiting for them to ask you out," Massa says.
They wear their hopelessness on their faces and in their body language and end up sabotaging themselves because people can smell this kind of negativity a mile away and will retreat from making contact, reinforcing the sense of alienation they then feel and creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Even if you're not feeling particularly spunky, work hard at making sure you project a positive self-image and energy. While a cute man can turn heads, there's nothing more magnetic than a man with a jovial spirit and great sense of humor. Along the same lines, there is nothing sexier than a man who exudes inner strength, confidence, and self-assuredness.
Rather than focusing on looks, try to work on identifying any personal "undesirables" you may possess and aggressively work to eliminate them from your personality and behavior to catapult you into interpersonal sophistication and savvy.Make yourself available to who you might meet and where the evening could take you."The more you're open to letting guys show you all the different sides of themselves, the more likely you'll surprise yourself and fall in love with one of them," Massa explains. Finally, you and The Prospective Boyfriend are doing something romantic that could lead to something serious.Remember that he's already your friend, so there's a whole lot that he likes about you, Massa says. That means no crazy makeup or boob shirts when he's used to seeing you casual.So you don't think you're attractive enough? Everyone has something about them that is attractive.Capitalize on what is attractive about you and recognize that which is truly ugly---ignorance, superficiality, mistreatment of your fellow gay brothers in any form or fashion, low confidence, self-degradation, cocky attitudes, excessive and superficial focuses on physical appearance, depression, etc.
It shows that he has his life together and enjoys being alive.