RELATED: 6 Reasons Masturbation Should Be a Part of Your Self-Care Routine Unless you have a clear sense of who you’re looking for, it’s easy to end up with someone who doesn’t make the grade, says Terri Orbuch, Ph D, author of She recommends literally jotting down 15 essential qualities for your mate. Though it's best to pick just two or three major non-negotiables, she says. ) The idea is to be honest about what you want and require in the long term.
And be specific: “People often tell me ‘I want someone who’s funny.’ But what does that mean? “You need to have a standard that you’re living by,” Campbell points out.
You can do that by talking openly about values, of course, and also by picking up on telltale hints.
For example, observe how your he treats siblings to get a sense of how he feels about family.
You know yourself better than anyone else (no matter what that one dysfunctional S.
When it comes to your romantic past, the saying “history repeats itself” may feel especially relevant.
That's because it can be really tough (read: nearly impossible) to break old patterns and avoid falling for the same type of person, again and again.
Suggest the movie you really want to see."What it looks like: Instead of working through your issues with your partner directly, you poll your friends with all of your problems and compare relationship dynamic to theirs.
Why it's easy to fall into: Friends can feel like an amazing support when you're distant from your partner, plus it feels good to hear feedback on what works for others.
But that means you also can end up with a lot of their baggage.